Friday, April 29, 2011

The High School Years

I don't miss high school. It's been four years since I graduated and I don't miss it at all. I was never made fun of even though I certainly wasn't popular. I had friends but they all belonged to different groups. Tonight, I wasn't planning on doing a blog post but I ended up having a really random, but also wonderful conversation with a boy from my high school. I didn't ever talk to him in high school, I considered him one of the popular kids and I really didn't have any need to be friends with that crowd. Well tonight, I decided to reach out and say hi on facebook and out of no where we discussed how high school was and simply reminisced on the good and the bad times, and the people.

Well after tonight's talk, I realized just how much popularity and who you hung out with was emphasized in high school. There's always that girl that's beautiful (on the outside) and feels as though everyone should praise the ground she walks on. I can say with pure certainty that I most definitely was not that girl. During high school, I was the quiet girl in the back of the classroom that everyone would ask to borrow a pencil from. No one hated me but at the same time I often felt invisible.

As I've grown older, I've become much more confident in my appearance and who I am. After tonight though, I really feel as though I can look back on high school in a better light all because of this one comment that the boy made (excuse the misspelling):

That one phrase: "but so cool at the same time" I feel changed my whole outlook on everything. So often we allow society to put labels on us. I fully admit that I never would have thought that I was cool if it weren't for this conversation tonight. Sure I didn't really care to be popular, but I still cared about how others viewed me. I felt that because I wasn't in that"popular" group, that I was instantly labeled as an outsider. However, I learned tonight that there will always be those people that secretly notice you for who you are and appreciate it. So be confident, don't care what the cool kids think, and do your own thing...someone may just be watching and applauding your efforts.


.helen said...

Wow i really understand how you feel. In high school i was somewhere in the middle...i knew the cool crowd and the so called outsiders too..though i was in neather of the groups. A few years after graduating i met with some "cool" boys from my school and we had a really long talk...and it was such an incredible surprise me when they told me how they saw me in high school...and actually told me that quite a few of theyr buddys had a secret "kind of a crush" on me. I never knew.

PS! really lovely blog!

Sundresses and Smiles said...

Isn't funny how our ideas about how other people view us can be SO wrong? Good post..I bet you'd like one I did earlier this week called "On Friendship..."

The City Boy said...

now im thinking about high school.... i hated it actually. the people at my school were horrendous.

I was probe to labels, but didnt care, and looking back i realize that i was the smart one and can now "laugh" at all those other people because im in a much better place.